You Already Are...
My family loves all the Marvel movies! We can and do watch them on repeat all the time.
It’s interesting how you can watch something over and over again and still find something in it you have never heard or seen before…that happened today!
When Scott (Antman) shows up at his daughter’s birthday party…he not very welcomed. He’s just been released from prison, he’s behind on child support, so his ex-wife is less than pleased to see him.
As she kicks him out of the party, in a moment of sincerity…she says…
“Be the person she already thinks you are.”
Of course, I hear her say this and think, “holy cow, I have to write a blog about that.”
And here we are…
Why do we struggle to see ourselves the way others already see us?
It doesn’t matter how great you are…there’s something in your life where you see yourself as less than. Maybe you’re a great business person, but you believe you’re a less than qualified parent. Maybe you excel in (fill in the blank), but you see yourself as a less than qualified (fill in the blank).
In my world, this rears its ugly head on social media ALL THE TIME!
I deal with super successful men and women every day that will never want for money another day in their life…yet they feel like an insecure, pimple-faced teenager. They can close a million-dollar deal, but can’t overcome the insecurity that comes with that dang camera on their iPhone.
We are all like this…but we can overcome it. Here’s how…
What causes you to feel insecure on social media is buying into everyone else’s highlight reels.
It doesn’t matter how successful we get, there will always be someone who’s more successful than us (unless your Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk). This is why even the person I think is the most successful person I know can still be insecure. Don’t let the highlight reels of those around you cause you to lose confidence in yourself. Why?
You awesome regardless of those people.
Your people don’t even know them (most likely).
To someone, you’re the best (fill in the blank) they know. Live that way.
You fear looking stupid more than helping people.
Does this sound selfish? It is.
One way to become the person we are capable of being is to love helping others more than serving ourselves!
Right now I am averaging doing a video every single day. How? Because I want to help people SO BAD! It’s all I care about! I am not concerned at all with looking stupid, forgetting what I’m supposed to say, or worry about no one watching. I don’t care!
If you struggle in this area…look deep inside and think about if you love people as much as you say you do. If you don’t, don't feel bad, be better!
Practice makes progress.
At the end of the day, the only way to become the man or woman others sees us as is to practice!
Keep practicing! Read an extra couple pages in the book (or actually read a book), go to the gym, make that extra sales call, ask better questions, post more on social media, do the video!
Stop saying you will do it and actually do it. It’s simple really.
I tell my wife all the time, yes, I am going to pooper scoop the yard. But you know what makes her really happy? When she asks and I don’t say “yes, I’ll do it,” I just stand up, walk outside, and pick up the poop.
We are one breakthrough away from being where we want to be. Do you know what’s standing in your way/
Action.
So take it!
And if I can ever do anything to serve you, please don’t ever hesitate to ask! :)
I love you and am fighting daily for your success! Thanks for reading.